A Nobler Spirit Embiggensers an Even Smaller Man

It's really amazing when an event can put things in perspective...

My grandfather passed away last Friday. He really wasn't someone that I knew well. Really, one of my only memories of spending time with him was watching the California Raisins on television around Christmas time. That, however, isn't the point of this post. Last night, I got a call from my grandmother. See, I had called and left a message last Friday. I gave her my condolences and sent my love. In return, she gave me some advice: "If you ever get married, Joe, love her. Don't fight, just love her, because your time together goes by so fast." This was right before she broke down crying.

There's a girl that I'm madly in love with. I love her with all my heart. Unfortunately, I make an ass of myself from time to time. Maybe it's because I'm having some kind of unofficial man-period and I'm just a bitchy hormonal mess. Maybe it's because I need strife and struggle - after which, I feel better and I'm addicted to the healing process. Maybe there's no rhyme or reason to it and I yearn for the chaotic ups and downs of a relationship. Regardless of the reason, I can't help but think "love her, don't fight, because your time together goes by so fast." I really do hope that Katie is the one that I get to be with forever. We'll have our ups and downs over the years, but we'll rely on love for one another to get us through. Perhaps that's just the idealistic dreaming of a hopeless romantic, but it's still something that I cling to.

One last thing about relationships. I heard somewhere that when Nancy Reagan was being asked about her marriage to Ronald before he got Alzheimer's, was it 50/50 relationship. She laughed and said that it was never a 50/50 relationship, but sometimes it was 10/90 or 70/30. No matter what happened, though, they were always there for one another. They were always there to pick the other one up. I think that's the best view of a marriage I've heard in a long time. Click Here to Read More..